Mutual Ground

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Team Work101

My GEM of a husband & I have a secret weapon that brings us tighter than   peanut butter and jelly ... ‪#‎Hehehe‬, We're book worms and every chance we get, we purchase a book, discuss what we've read and slip our coffee or tea while we giggle like kids ... ‪#‎HaLLeLuJaH‬,

My Love Boat carefully read, kissed me in between the turning of each page and his face lit up (just like a little kid with a new toy) while he picked up some helpful tips from this book ... Automotive Air Conditioning Handbook, Installation, Maintenance & Repair - By John E Traister

In my case, I slowly read, savored, took notes, laughed and felt that every single time I turned a page, spoke to me (just where I needed the most) ...

Can You Tell This Is a Knockoof? By Missy Horsfall & Jocelyn Hamsher

Each couple should ask Jesus Christ (in prayer) to place in their hearts a unique activity that both of you can enjoy during any kind of weather, in our case we created our own book club ...  ‪#‎TeamWork101‬,

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

"Inseparable"

 I'd like to take this opportunity to wish my GEM of a hubby a "Happy Wedding Anniversary"; because by the grace of God and 27 years ago, 2 individuals from 2 different sides of the globe, 1st. lade eyes on each other in the House ⛪ of the Lord ...  ‪#‎Alleluia‬,

I can remember when I was at Church ⛪, on a Tuesday evening, after the prayer service was about over (I'm feeling every detail right now). When suddenly, God told me to turn around, on account of He had a gift for me. ‪#‎OhYea‬, I'm going to tell you "Honey Bun" that when I first saw you, my: knees became weak, my heart started to pound like crazy and ever since then we've been inseparable and blessed us with 4 awesome sons  ... ‪#‎HaLLeLuJaH‬,

 
God Bless Your Marriage,
Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

"Dear Husbands"

When your day seems to overwhelm you, keep in mind this loving though ...

Proverbs 5:18-19 (NCV)

18. Be happy with the wife you married when you were young. She gives you joy, as your fountain gives you water. ...
19. She is as lovely and graceful as a deer. Let her love always make you happy; let her love always hold you captive.

Now, don't you feel much better after you've walked down memory lane?  ‪#‎Mmm‬,

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

No Matter What!

Today, hold hands, look into each others eyes, and remind each other how committed you are to building a loving and secure marriage and family, no matter what ... ‪#‎MotivatedByLove‬,

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

Two Mingling Souls

Romance involves the passionate mingling of 2 souls, a pair of kindred spirits (soul- mates) who enjoy being with one and other, while partaking of a loving spirit of patience, along the way ... That's another definition for love, on account of this ...


1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (ESV) -
^4. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant ^5. Or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; ^6 . It does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. ^7. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. ^8. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

God Still Talks

27 years ago, my GEM & I got engaged. I can remember it as if was yesterday! Now, before the Lord brought my Island Boy into my life, God prophesied through various people that I'd meet the love of my life and he would arrive, when I needed him the most ... ‪#‎Hallelujah‬,

 

You see, my mother was extremely ill, but she'd always take me to McDonalds to celebrate Valentine's Day ... Our conversation were always the same, she wanted to leave me in loving hands ... Furthermore, when my father met my Love Boat, my Papi said yes to our engagement and that the God placed in his heart that we we're destined for each other and that we should get married within 3 months ... Another confirmation of the prophecies that were given to us from people far and near and especially from strangers, too ...  ‪#‎GodStillTalks‬,

 

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

Experiencing Several Stages

Most couples experience several stages in their marriage before they reach the ability to commit to truly loving a real and admittedly imperfect person ... It takes time, patience and true love (the of love that flows from the heart; instead of the mouth) ... ‪

 

One more thing, stop trying to change one another, instead choose to accept, one another ...

 

#‎Food4Thought‬,

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

Adventurous and Romantic, Memories

Continuing our stroll down Memory Lane ... July 18, 1987, was full of amusing childlike activities and my Love Boat wanted me to climb another tree ...  ‪#‎HereIGo‬, However, what my Sweetie Pie didn't know was that this time I was going to look deep into his eyes, grab his strong hand and Praise the Lord for placing him in my life ... ‪#‎HaLLeLuJaH‬,

 

My GEM displayed his adventurous and romantic side to me, (in more ways than one) and that's why I love him more everyday and testifying is my middle name ... ‪#‎SentimentSaturday‬,

 

 feeling in love my Dominican Danish  (that's what I call my loving  hubby) ...

 

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

Love that Flows

Most couples experience several stages in their marriage before they reach the ability to commit to   truly loving a real and admittedly imperfect person. It takes time, patience and true love (the kind of love that flows from the heart; instead of the mouth) ... One more thing, stop trying to change one another, instead choose to accept, one another and here's an excellent example of teamwork, too  ... 

 

Ecclesiastes 4:9 (NCV) - Two people are better than one, because they get more done by working together.

 

Thus, keep this in mind: before, during and after you two love birds start a project at home or outside ...

 

 #Food4Thought,

 

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

A Healthy Calibration

Good Morning Everyone:

Here's a bible verse that will help you through this freezing cold Friday morning  ...

Amos 3:3 (HCSB) - Can two walk together without agreeing to meet?

Now, Amos was one of the Twelve Minor Prophets, who lived in the kingdom of Judah; but he preached in the northern kingdom of Israel and his major themes were of social justice. Perhaps, your saying what does social justice have to do with marriage. Well, allow us to explain? You see, society nowadays tends to disregard the value of the institution of marriage and Amos is referring to walking in unity in every sense of the word ...

The Prophet Amos is asking the past generations and present generations too, how can a couple, friends and/or people who work in the same ministry work together if their isn't any kind of healthy calibration? For instance, if a couple is at odds while their preparing dinner, then something that used to taste great, might lose it's flavor. Or if the couple is expecting company on a certain night and the husband & wife had a BIG verbal argument before the guests arrived, without them saying a word, the atmosphere will definitely feel strange. That being said, if you two love birds are upset, reconcile; so that evening will end in a harmonious way. Remember, memories take time to create; but if your not careful, then old or new wounds will erase them from your mind and heart ... 

 

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

Embrace, Small Gestures

In what ways can you demonstrate your unconditional love for your spouse? 

 

1. If you to had a misunderstanding last night, then don't start your Thursday with yesterday mess. Say I'm sorry from the heart, not the mouth ... 
2. Whoever waits up first and has a little extra time before they leave for school or work, make a loving attempt to prepare a hot cup of coffee, tea or hot coco for your spouse ... 
3.  Send a surprise e-mail from your job, leave a love note in a special place at home and/or stop by at lunch time with something delicious to eat for your spouse ... 
    

These are only a few helpful tips that can turn your marriage into a second honeymoon. Or have you forgotten this?

 

Colossians 3:13 (ESV) - Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.

 

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

Don't Go Cuckoo Cuckoo

Here's a few bumps in the road of a couple that's only been married for one year ...

A. The squeezing of the toothpaste, especially in the middle of the tube.
B. Leaving dirty clothes lying around, instead of putting it in the hamper.
C. Wearing unattractive lingerie to bed.

 If you and your spouse can see past these issues, then that's the foundation to a strong marriage. However, don't forget that both of you should discuss what these concerns are doing to your relationship; because it you don't, it can drive you "cuckoo cuckoo" ...

 

Oh yea, add this to the mix too ...

 

Colossians 3:14 (ESV) - And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.

 

Then you'll see how easy it is to deal with each others tendencies ... #Food4Thought,

 

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

Overcoming, Unpleasant Hiccups

Loving someone according to their looks, the material items they possess or because your enticed  with their financial status, really isn't a solid foundation or reason to say "I Do". On account of, things can change within a blink of an eye (Mmm), then what will you do?

How about this, why don't you two truly get to know each other, share your pro's and con's about life and ease the word divorce as a substitute in case things don't work out. By doing so, you'll be able to create a great support system and grabbing your bags when things get tough, won't be an option. On the contrary, you two will take your relationship to a higher level and here's a bonus prize, when your future or present soul-mate sings you a love song (hypothetically speaking), no matter how far or near you are, you'll still be able to hear it, with a loving heart ...

Think about this, before you say "I Do" and if your already marriage, pray your way through those unpleasant hiccups in life ...

 

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

Don't Misinterpret

Just wanted to share a healthy marital tip ...

Ephesians 5:21 (ESV) - Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Now, lets not rush through this bible verse; because perhaps you might misinterpret what the Apostle Paul is saying. Most people stereotype this verse as if Paul the Apostle is referring to one spouse (the husband) being more superior to the other; but that isn't the goal of this verse ...

The word submitting is defined as to yield oneself to the power or authority of another: In other words, sharing in making the decisions; because no one has carte blanche (full discretionary power) when it refers to purchasing something new, maxing out the credit cards or relinquishing from their present employment because they don't like to work (it happens), is similar to what the Apostle Paul is hinting at ...

A couple, whether their dating, engaged or happily married should constantly communicate with their spouse before making any decision that may effect both of them, for the rest of their life's. On that note, the manner in which you love, serve and respect your wife or husband, is an interpretation of how you: see, obey and eventually serve the Lord ...

God Bless every marriage, far and near ... #Amen,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

A Couple's Manual

Our definition on marriage:

M - Memorable hugs, kisses and discussions ...

A - Able to overcome anything together ...
R - Respectful towards each other ...
R - Reliable when needed the most ...

I - Ignited, in the love department ...

A - Alert to each others feeling ...

G - Giving, in every aspect of the word ... 

E - Eager to forgive the unforgiveable ...

 

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

Use, Attentive Gestures

Fight for your marriage, but not with your fist or any heavy object. But instead, by using those kind words that flow from your heart,  along with an attentive  gestures, such as leaving love note by the coffee pot, bringing home a  box of  sweet candy and especially don't forget to bend your knees (pray) for your spouse on a daily bases. This way the lines of communication NEVER get disconnected ...

 

Colossians 3:14 (HCSB) - Above all, put on love—the perfect bond of unity.

 

While all of the above is going on, remember this ...

 

Proverbs 4:23 (NLV) -  Keep your heart pure for out of it are the important things of life.

 

#Food4Thought,

 

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

The Boudoir

Is the place in a couple's home, where they close the door, hang on a do not disturb sign (literally speaking) and not allow the stress of the day enter their personal space. There's no talking about school, work and/or what occurred at the grocery, neither ...

It's a safe haven, where a wife & husband can unwind, reminisce about the 1st. time they set eyes on each other and in between all of the above, lots of hugs and kisses are exchanged ...

Yes and of course, the boudoir (bedroom) is that special place where a couple shares their most intimate thoughts and end the night with a whole lot of romance, too ... Don't you know that when a wife & husband make love to each other, that creates a stronger bond, generates emotions that last a lifetime and the next day life feels more sweeter than any man made candy?

One more thing, treasure those boudoir moments ...

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

On a Daily Bases

A real marriage is defined by the commitment the husband (man) and wife (woman) shares with one and other ... The respect that's displayed during the most difficult moments, the love also grows on a daily bases and oh yes, let's not forget that all of the above can occur in between the oddest incidents ...

#Food4Thought,

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved

Feedback

An angry spouse can set a house on fire (hypothetically speaking) ... That's why if your husband or wife is full with rage, then the next best thing for you to do is respond like this ...

Proverbs 15:1 (GW) - A gentle answer turns away rage, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Happy a Blessed Sunday Everyone ... #Amen,

God Bless Your Marriage,

Written by Pastor Nancy Advincola (C)Copy Right 2011 All Rights Reserved